I am an introvert.
I am not antisocial. I do not dislike people. I am not shy.
It took me a very long time to come to terms with my personality and the fact that I am an introvert and that there is nothing wrong with that. I dislike small talk and being surrounded by large groups of people, but I enjoy having long, deep discussions with people about things like spirituality, religion, culture, history, life, dreams, the universe… pretty much anything that makes you think. I love learning about new concepts and challenging myself to look at different topics from a different perspective. However, the one thing that I think really sets me apart from people that are more extroverted is that I need time recharge. After a day of interacting with people, I need a moment of solitude for myself where it’s just me and silence. As long as I give myself time to recharge every day, I’m perfectly comfortable facing a new day with new people.
There’s this misconception that to be successful you need to be extroverted. And when it comes to careers that have a client-facing aspect, this misconception is even more prevalent. If you don’t like small-talk, how do you talk to clients? You just do it. Regardless of whether I like it or not, I understand that making small-talk is an important part of my job just to get to know my clients and get them feeling comfortable. I may not like it, and I may be cringing on the inside, but I do it anyway, knowing that later that night I will recharge with a good book, meditation or a nice long walk. In fact, lots of successful people are introverts. Oprah, Amy Schumer, Bill Gates, J. K. Rowling, Meryl Streep, Barack Obama… and the list goes on!
I’ve been thinking a lot about how society expects you to be a certain way and behave in certain ways to succeed, and I thought I’d share this little thought that was on my mind today. Hopefully, if you’re an introvert and doubting yourself or your talents or dreams because of it, this makes you feel better and understand that there’s really nothing wrong with you. Please don’t let society fool you into thinking that you’re not capable of a certain career because you are more introverted than others. You can literally do anything that an extrovert does. You just need a little time to recharge afterward. And that’s okay! Find the lifestyle that works for you, and live it, unapologetically. 🙂 <3